ABOUT ME

Back in 2008, I started my journey to become a sex therapist. I grew up in Florida, with shame-based and inaccurate sex education and I noticed that myself and many of my peers had no framework for how to make well-informed and authentic decisions regarding our sex lives. I wanted to empower people to show up fully as themselves, and have the tools to consciously engage with their erotic experiences. For the past decade+ it has been my joy and privilege to walk with many individuals and couples as they navigate their relationships with sex, as well as advocating for positive systemic change.

I’d love to help you navigate culturally-ingrained sexual shame, and move toward your authentic sexual self. See how you can work with me to discover how to deepen your relationship with your erotic self, communicate your desires and boundaries, and have a more easeful connection with eroticism.

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Specialties

Navigating Erectile Variability

Many people with penises have expectations regarding erections - how quickly erections should happen, how rigid the erection should be - and many people notice that their erections do not fit this mold at different times in their life. Work with me to explore fact-based information on what is “typical” for erections, learn about common concerns that impact erectile variability, and deepen your understanding of your erectile functioning!
Navigating Sexual Desire

Did you know that sexual desire is not a “drive?” It’s actually a system of “yes’s” and “no’s” and every person’s system is unique! Work with me to better understand your yes’s, no’s, and how to interact with them in a way that is compassionate, realistic, and easeful.
Navigating gender and sexuality

As someone who identifies as non-binary and queer, I am particularly passionate about creating a safer space for folx to explore their own relationships with their gender and sexual orientation. I also love working with gender expansive and LGBTQIA2S+ folx on any topic, as I know that finding affirming providers can be a challenge.
Navigating Sexual Pain

Sexual pain is often misunderstood, misdiagnosed, or discredited. Often, by the time someone who has experienced sexual pain finds a provider that believes them and knows how to effectively address sexual pain, they are already experiencing burnout and hopelessness. We start with building emotional and physical resourcing, then deepening understanding of the psychological impact of pain, and then move toward building a new understanding of your sexual and erotic self, while building supports to let your body know that it is safe, and you are dedicated to showing up for it.

Elle’s METHOD

Nervous System Regulation

We start by helping you identify when your nervous system is activated, and build tools to help you feel centered and supported.
Accurate Information

Next, we identify inaccurate and unhelpful messages that you have integrated, and begin to build more helpful and evidence-based understanding of your sexual self.
Integration

We will work together to integrate new skills and information to create a better understanding of your authentic self, and create a plan for you to sustainably move forward with confidence.